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		"The entire spiritual advancement of a human being is dependent on his ability to develop empathy." (Rabbi Shlomo Volbe, Alai Shur) Empathy is the foundation of the Torah and all the mitzvot in the Torah are included in the mitzvah
	R E A C H Examples of What Could Be Said* Dr. Miriam Adahan
	Oh...Oy How painful.  How awful. Tell me more I think I understand (Say this only if  you've been through a similar event) I'd feel the same way if that happened to me That must be frustrating I'm so sorry that happened to you What a difficult position to be in I don't blame you one bit				You made a good decision in      responding like that How sad.  I know how much      it/s/he meant to you I would have been     embarrassed, too I feel like crying, too. Sounds like you did the only thing you could be expected to do Amazing.  What a challenge (If the person relates something positive, reflect that too, by saying, "Oh, what fun!   How wonderful!"  "I'm so happy for you." or  some other appropriate phrase.)
			If appropriate, ask questions to show interest:
	What happened? How do you feel about what      happened How/when did it happen? How could you stand it? What did you do?  And then what did you do? What do you think can be done?				How has this affected your health/job/relationships/       future? What do you think would work next time Do you have any other options? What do you think caused this problem? What are you doing to cope? Is there anything I can do to help you?  Would it help if I.......?
	AVOID ROADBLOCKS such as minimizing, arguing or giving advice. *I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better (Lundberg)

Messages from Mishlei On CD By Mrs. Rachie Reingold	Order Form
Putting Your Kids First For tools to encourage cooperation, instill respect, and develop self-control in children For tools to develop empathy and communication skills in children	Other uses of an Eggtimer Help children learn to measure their feelings with this ruler
How to stay non-hurtful:	Three Thoughts to Keep Us Sane
Empathy :	How to R.E.A.C.H. others
Sample REACH phrases:	R.E.A.C.H. Phrases to keep in mind
Read a Delightful Story to Children --Three Books To help them cooperate and negotiate instead of whine and pout – I Want What I Want and I Want it MY WAY (Or Maybe NOT!) To read when they are in time out for not controlling hurtful actions – My Time Out Book To help children develop good self-esteem and self-confidence – Who Decides Who I Am Anyway? More on empathy, sharing, cooperation and respect, based on Old Testament values:	Social Skills All Kids Need Innoculate Your Kids from Becoming Bullies
Campaign for Kindness	Raising Kapable Children
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